| A. Sinan Unur 2005-05-25, 8:56 pm |
| John Bokma <john@castleamber.com> wrote in
news:Xns96618C896E79Dcastleamber@130.133.1.4:
> A. Sinan Unur wrote:
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> It is?
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> I started an email yesterday with:
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> "I hope you don't mind me bothering you again"
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> and at the bottom:
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> "Many thanks in advance,"
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> So that was extremely rude I guess?
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> Can you give a better way of writing this?
It is presumptious. Thanking in advance *presumes* that the other party
is willing and able to do what you want. It *presumes* that what you
want will be done because you have stated that you want it.
The favor that is being asked is thus no longer a favor because it being
taken for granted by the asking party.
Only a boss or a commander can state a request, and expect that it will
be done.
I prefer to close with "I appreciate your taking the time to ..."
Now, this is all a personal preference obviously.
You will notice that I do not respond this way *every time* someone says
"thanks in advance". The OP has already demonstrated that whenever a
question comes to his mind, he will post here *before* doing any
research himself. The obviously off-topic SQL question was just the last
drop.
Sinan
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